This time I am going to write on topic is…Exhibitionism!
As so many couples have sent me this topic, whey wanted to know little more about it so then all of the sudden it just came to me today to let’s write about it! So anyways, here is the info & my perspective on it.
Exhibitionism refers to a desire or compulsion to expose parts of one’s body – specifically the genitals or buttocks of a man or woman, or the breasts of a woman – in a public or semi-public circumstance, in crowds or groups of friends or acquaintances, or to strangers.
This disorder is characterized by intense sexually arousing fantasies, urges, or behaviors in which the individual exposes his or her genitals to an unsuspecting stranger. To be considered diagnosable, the fantasies, urges, or behaviors must cause significant distress in the individual or be disruptive to his or her everyday functioning.
When legal authorities become involved, and the behavior is threatening or anti-social, it may be defined as indecent exposure, depending on the specific laws of the jurisdiction involved, and can be subject to the arrest and prosecution of the exhibitionist.
Non-threatening exhibitionism may be physically expressed in two basic ways. The first, colloquially referred to as flashing, involves the exposure of a person’s “private parts” to another person or group of people, in a non-threatening manner, in a situation where these would not normally be exposed, such as in a social gathering or in a public place. The act of flashing, particularly when done by females involving the breasts but also when involving her vulva and also her buttocks, may be at least partially sexual in intention, i.e. to prompt the sexual arousal of those being flashed, in turn giving the flasher an ego boost.
Exhibitionism is not automatically a compulsion, but some people do have a distinct psychological tendency to sexually expose themselves, whether it is to “flash” (the nonthreatening form) or to “indecently expose” (the threatening form). When it is a compulsion, it is a condition sometimes called apodysophilia (a desire to strip, flash or appear naked in public).
Recently I read in an article, Exhibitionism firstly spread as a disorder, which was first described in a scientific journal in 1877 by a French physician and psychiatrist Charles Lasègue (1809–1883).
Exhibitionism can be considered a psychological disorder if it interferes with the quality of life or normal functioning capacity of the individual.
Treatment typically involves psychotherapy aimed at uncovering and working through the underlying cause of the behavior. Medications can at times be helpful to assist the client in resisting urges, but are typically not utilized in treatment.
Types of Exposure:
Anasyrma: the lifting of the skirt when not wearing underwear, to expose genitals.
Flashing: chiefly the momentary display of bare female breasts by a woman with an up-and-down lifting of the shirt and/or bra. It can also involve the exposure of a man’s or woman’s genitalia.
Martymachlia: a paraphilia which involves sexual attraction to having others watch the execution of a sexual act.
Mooning: the display of bare buttocks by pulling down of trousers and underwear. There tends to be a gendered double standard here: with males, the act is most often done for the sake of humor, disparagement, and/or mockery than for sexual excitement, whereas with females, the reverse tends to be true, and sexual arousal (or at least sexual attention) of those mooned is the intent.
Streaking: the act of running nude through a public place.
Candaulism: when a person exposes his/her partner in a sexually explicit manner.
Reflectoporn: the act of stripping and taking a photograph using an object with a reflective surface as a mirror, then posting the image on the Internet in a public forum.
My Personal Perspective
Personally it is near and dear to my heart because I myself a bit of an exhibitionist. I’ve never had the urge to flash strangers or anything…though in my teen age or college life but since I get into swinging lifestyle, “I DO” started liking it, and nudity becomes more comfortable for me…. From No, never mind now I changed it to let’s do it, or Let’s try it till it won’t bring any personal threat to us. Mainly, I get on by the thought of people watching me have sex with my partner, they stare & praise on my body parts.
I’ve been flashed by some crazy dudes in a trench coat and those odd socks that attach to the calf. They weren’t some homeless person, I don’t even think they were crazy, I think they were doing the only thing they could to appease the compulsion to flash people.
I actually remember face more than I do their body, which was on the scrawny side. They had a look of both extreme arousal, and crushing shame fighting for control the whole time. They stood there, coat open, erection waving in the wind, for a good minute and a half before the shame won out and They covered themselves up, apologized, and high tailed it out of there.
I’m no psychologist, but in that situation, I don’t think flashing was something he wanted to do, so much as needed to do. When everything was said and done I didn’t really feel grossed out by the experience, I felt sad. Not for myself though, but for him, I mean, could you imagine the only way to get the constant urge to do something that made you feel shameful and disgusting to go away was to just do it and hope the compulsion doesn’t come back for a while?
I love to expose parts of my body in public or to strangers, I definitely understand the thrill one might receive in doing so!
But we as exhibitionist, I don’t think everyone would want to see someone exposing their body to though, so that needs to be kept in mind always, that not everybody wants to see your genitals, butt, or breasts.
So you should have experience to judge your audience and Do’s & Don’t’s Also, I think if you are able to control it, so meaning that it hasn’t become a psychological condition, you need to keep that in mind, that not everybody is open and comfortable with this sexual act.
I definitely think that this topic is controversial because it can turn into legal and psychological issues. I won’t discuss the legal issues because that is pretty straight forward, but as far as psychological goes, and I feel this about any fetish or kink or fantasy; if it disrupts your life so much that you can’t resist the urge or it causes you to get fired, miss school, or whatever, you definitely should seek help.
Now, even though it can cause legal trouble, I think acts such as flashing, mooning, or streaking can at times be for fun and games (ex. Truth or Dare, at a football game streaking across a field, etc.) but you still need to realize that you can get arrested and end up dealing with the law.
For things such as candaulism, reflectoporn, or martymachlia, I think those are things for the bedroom or some sort of private forum. I can’t imagine many people want to see someone expose their partner in public or want to watch your sexual acts.
But whenever you try, be very careful, and always give priority to your own safety, and then you are free to enjoy as long as it gives you excitement, pinch of kink… Keep enjoying your journey!
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