Swingers can be either partners, couples or singles who decided to be in an open relationship, giving consent to their partners to have sex with others. Permission or consent is a MUST.
Swingers allow their partners to engage in sex with others.
For those who intend to try swinging, rules must be strictly followed in order for this type of lifestyle to work in a relationship.
- Respect is ultimate.
- Be honest to your partner and your playmate.
- Get tested not only for HIV but also for STDs.
- Use protection as much as you can.
- Be very selective in choosing who to play with.
- Remain private, be discreet.
Usually, couples make their own rules around what they should and should not do. They set boundaries. And to me, it is best for couples to be discreet and that children are never involved.
I saw many posts where couples asked a get together or outing with their kids, but I strictly won’t recommend that, until unless you do not want to get indulge in incest, with in your own family.
CONSENSUAL incest is not wrong. Consensual incest is very common now a days. You know people have been involved, whether you know it or not personally. Even for me incest is OK but with some rules and I won’t prefer ever within family.
Youthful experimentation between close relatives close in age is not uncommon, and there are more people than you’d think out there who are in lifelong healthy, happy relationships with a close relative.
Back to the point I was discussing, rules for any kind of lifestyle is must, you must know what is OK for you and what is not OK for you. And any of partner have right to fix his or her own rules separately as well, and no one should force to imply one or the other rule.
I always say, that NO means NO. This would be pretty obvious, but it’s important to reiterate: if someone says no, that’s exactly what they mean. It’s also important to note if someone says “maybe later,” or something similar, that should also be taken as “no.” When in doubt, don’t do anything unless the person explicitly says “YES.” Else your relationship might be ruined in future or you might create more complexity in your own relationship.
One more rule I would share here Stick to only What You’re Comfortable With, everyone knows his or her own limits & boundaries, If you’re not sure whether you’ll be stepping out of your comfort zone while swinging, just do the stuff you like doing, and keep the sexual experimentation to the privacy of your own home. Sex parties are for having fun, not being freaked out. Also, don’t be afraid to turn down someone who wants you to do something you’re not comfortable with, just remember to be friendly.
Decide on your limits before every encounter. Don’t let others force them during the encounter, while you aren’t thinking rationally, and you may be inebriated or high. You can adjust rules afterward or stress your own limits.
Be open to changing your rules as you see what works for you and what doesn’t.
And most importantly “No secrets from each other”.
Everyone has their own rules, personally we didn’t have many rules to start with, for me important is be very selective, to have fun in this lifestyle, everyone has their own definition of fun. If someone isn’t having fun / comfortable in lifestyle I would say you must stop.
I prefer safe sex, nothing abusive, hygienic, I never really had it as a rule before as I didn’t really think it was needed (turns out it was) but at some time it really turned me off and I really pissed off and really I left in between conversation before even starting something.
I also personally feel, There’s really one important rule: if either of you has a problem with something/someone, then you both have a problem. Stop and resolve it before you do anything else. Sometimes that means walking away from something you wanted. Deal with it, there’s plenty more experiences out there.
Swinging is a bizarrely great way to spice up a relationship. Unless all the rules and boundaries are followed, there would be turmoil in the relationship and the tendency to break up is high. Live out fantasies without cheating, absolutely live by the rules and your own rules!
I think enough for now, I should conclude here,
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