Chances are pretty high that you’ve heard the word ‘cuckold’ before, if you know already about swingers, it is just a part of this lifestyle and few couples enjoy this as well. Few followers of my blogs asked me to write on this, so just first time trying to write which personally we did not enjoy but just pen it for few followers. I am writing on the base what I have read about it, and heard from other couples who enjoy this.
Before I go much deeper word cuckold and what it has always meant, the word cuckold is derived from the cuckoo bird who is known for laying its eggs in the nests of other birds.
Only in this case, instead of eggs, it’s a wife laying with a man who is not her husband.
An important part of this definition is the notion that the husband has no idea that his wife is pulling one over on him. For some it is very strange. But few enjoy seeing his own wife have sex with someone else in front of him and he is just watching them.
You’ve heard the term “cuckold” and know it’s “kinky” … but what is it really? How does it work? And most importantly … is it for you?
Some describe cuckolding as a marriage where the husband derives sexual pleasures from watching his wife having sex with another man who has a larger size, or more stamina than him or it might be any other reason as well. Even some husband enjoys knowing their wife have gone out with other man on date and enjoying & spending nice time with him.
Cuckolding, the husband watches his wife engage in sexual activity with other men either right in front of him, or she tells him about her experiences after. The husband feeling like a victim of the cuckold is a major element of the kink.
Sometimes submission elevates through the wife using domination & bondage to tie her spouse up and spank, paddle, or flog him as a way of “punishment” or shaming for not fulfilling her sexual desires. This can occur just as sexual role play in the couple’s life, or it can become a way of life for the couple depending on the degree of cuckolding in the marriage.
I believe & from my personal experience, all married women have fantasized, at least once, about having sex with another partner during their healthy, happy, and loving marriage. Her fantasy may be a secret affair with a celebrity, someone at the office, with a stranger, or any known friend or relative. and willing figment of her imagination. Most women never act on these (normal, healthy) impulses, but some couples do — in a totally consensual way. The husband gives his wife permission and encouragement to have sex with other men, while he stays faithful only to her. It’s called Cuckolding, and many committed, loving, and trusting married couples engage in it.
One of our close couple friend who is in cuckolding too, told me once, that it started out innocently a few years ago when they used to fantasize role play in the bedroom. But on one weekend while the kids were away, they slowly stepped away from their normal vanilla world and started to explore and indulge in my deepest desires. Ever since her wife she loves it, and he became fan of her while seeing her with other man. Now they don’t play with any rules, which means playing with others outside their marriage is normal for them, and he loves to lsietn her experience story even if he is not with her at that moment.
In relationships, however, there are many perspectives, and each person’s emotions, thoughts, and beliefs take frequent twists and turns. Cuckolding is not for everyone. For some hot wives, what seems at first like a “have your cake and eat it too but also they like to share cake with others too”.
One more thing I remember someone shared with me recently, wife shared it with me, writing below in her own words
My husband and I have always enjoyed our sex life. We have been together for five years now, and our sexual energy together still feels electric. Then, out of nowhere, he told me one day that he wanted to catch me in the act of having sex with another man. Literally. Although I have zero sexual attraction to other men, I agreed to try it out. The question then became where to find a willing male participant. After weeks of talking to trusted friends, we ended up on a swinger’s site and found many eager seekers.
Immediately, my husband became way more interested in sex with me. At first I absolutely loved it, although I was curious about why this turned him on so much. When I asked him, he explained, “I think it’s because I always felt a lot of rejection from girls as a young man and even as I got older. I worry that the women I have close relationships with might leave me for other men, and acting it out in a controlled environment actually makes me feel safe.”
He knows I would never leave him, but he likes to imagine that I’m a dirty girl who likes to have sex all the time with strangers behind his back. He even likes it when I sexting with guys while we’re having sex together so he can read it.
So, how is this for me? I have done this a few times for him now, and I’ve found that I do not physically or emotionally enjoy the sex with other men. I am able to go through the motions and act like I love it. I have yet to achieve an orgasm during sex with someone else. Usually after we’ve played, he claims his interest in me having sex with other men has started to wane, but then, after a few weeks, it always returns. I have now refused to do another cuckold scenario until he’s willing to fulfill some of my fantasies as well, although that has not yet happened. He keeps getting stuck on this same cuckold fantasy. I suppose it must be amazing for him, but it does nothing for me.
In the end, as always, it depends on you and your partner. If one or both of you has a cuckold fantasy, it’s worth talking about. Indulging this fantasy has the potential to improve your relationship and make you stronger as a couple, but it takes careful planning, communication, and honesty throughout the whole process. And, if you’re curious but don’t want to go all the way with a stranger, try role playing a cuckold scenario first! Remember, no matter what, you are in control, and you have the freedom to explore your sexuality however you want. As long as you keep an open mind and communicate well, you and your partner can be happy together no matter how adventurous or vanilla you decide to be!