My Husband (Navish) and I (Amaaya) are a typical heterosexual couple, but we have a dirty secret: We’re swingers.
We meet other couples and exchange each other’s partners. Due to our conservative careers and even more conservative families, we keep our sexual practices to ourselves. Only a few close Vanilla friends know what we’re into (“Vanilla” is the term swingers use to refer to anyone who is in lifestyle).
Here’s what we’ve learned in the several years now that we’ve been “in the lifestyle” (that’s the more subtle term swingers prefer):
We were not introduced to this lifestyle or did not planned or convinced to each other, actually we experienced it incidentally first time with our very close married couple friends during our one of vacation with them.
This couple was also not into lifestyle, but we both couples were very close friends, heavy flirting with each other open talks, non-veg jokes were very common in between us and questionably body contact whenever we’d hang out. it was all normal for us between good friends.
Due to this rocky incident in our life which was happened incidentally unplanned, during one of our vacation with them, we were initially hesitant to get into the scene completely after that one encounter. But the aforementioned some websites did turn us on to start liking and feeling exciting about this lifestyle, from where we started to realize that we can continue the scene and meet other couples (kind of like OK Cupid, but for swingers).
From here we started almost 5 years ago in 2012 after around one and half year later our marriage, we met lot of couples lately with different nationalities, at these mixers were always welcoming and more than willing to offer us advice on getting continued our lifestyle.
And perhaps most importantly, they never pressured us into doing anything we weren’t ready for. In fact, we soon realized the scene is all about asking before you initiate any sort of contact with someone. That was a welcome relief for us.
And after its journey like a roller coaster, we have enjoyed every part of it…..
As we met more and more couples who were understanding and patient, who were happy to stop the moment one of us hesitated, we realized that there are some truly good and decent people in the lifestyle. And as we got more comfortable, we started being willing to do more. That led us to five years’ worth of conversations about how far we were willing to go, what exactly we were looking for within the scene, and above all else, how we were in this together.
Our fantasies were dashed pretty quickly. And then we started to be involved with single guys as well, Initially We felt pretty awkward, but we soon realized that this is just natural human behavior. And when you throw in the strong likelihood that you’re going to be exchanging fluids with them later on, then of course, you’re going to be a bit more discriminating about who you’re hanging out with.
Just because we’re swingers doesn’t mean that we’ll fuck any random genitals that people whip out. But that’s kind of the impression outsiders get, right? Even when we’re ready for sex, we have to respect the other couples, and we definitely don’t want to be the awkward aggressive one.
Till Now We Are Happy Enjoying This Lifestyle and Willingly Continuing…..