My Perspective of Sexual Experience with Indian Men

Recently I Post on My Facebook Account, To Suggest A Topic for My Next Blog, One of My Blog Follower/Fan suggested very interesting topic to share my experience in lifestyle with different nationalities, it really gives me a thought to write something as I have now experience of lifestyle with people from different places.

But I will try to compare my experience with Indian Men Vs Men from Other Countries, actually not compare but I will try where Indian men lack from Men from other places to satisfy me. It doesn’t mean not a single man from India satisfied me, but yes in general still Indian men has to learn few expertise to satisfy fully their partners.

As now we are in swinger’s lifestyle from last 6-7 years, and have met people around the world if I count have encountered people in swinger’s lifestyle from around 20+ Countries. I’ve experienced normal date to sexual encounters. But in our lifestyle people mostly consider experience for sexual encounter only so let me tell me experience of Indian Men and Men from other countries. As a lady in Swingers lifestyle I have learnt from people of different countries, the intimacy and sexual skills through different prospective.

Out of all my experience, I have had with about 40-50 men mainly Indians, but also from Men from countries like United States, Canada, Ireland, United Kingdom, Australia, Germany, Spain, Sweden and few more. Their age range is 23-48 years, so from here you can know the youngest with whom I had was 23 & oldest was 48. Some of them were married & few were singles. From this I will share my experience, I know till now many of you become curious to know more.

Mostly Indian men, have grew up with very little sex education. They often went to boy only schools. They have minimal sexual exploration prior to getting married to a woman who is also very inexperienced. They end up frustrated by sex because they lack knowledge of anatomy and skill. In addition to inexperience, they also suffer from erectile dysfunction and rapid ejaculation. This all is based on my personal experience. Whereas men from other countries are more knowledgeable and skillful, while sharing everything with their partner.

A few typical Indian men came to me, in order to learn how to be a better lover to a woman and to also address his rapid ejaculation issue. After reading my blogs many people discussed their personal questions and I tried to give them correct information so they can enjoy it more.

From the questions I ask, I understood that most of Indian Men would prefer to have sex with his wife 4-6 times a week, but they end up only having sex 2-3 weeks. They keep their sexual interaction to a very basic level – there is rarely any massage, oral sex, shared sexy talk of fantasies and desires, or toys being incorporated into their lovemaking sessions. Also, they told me even if they try to explore their conservative wives did not like to co-operate as they consider it as taboo.

Most of these men do not know how to kiss or touch a woman. They have a very passionate and magnetic attitude toward women, but they approach a woman very hot and frantic, as if they are a hungry wolf and she is a delicious prey animal. The man is drawn to the woman and her female energy, but they also fear her sexuality. They are in eager and in awe, and it makes for an immature advance, which is off-putting for the woman.

The man hurriedly grabs at the woman and is rough and fast. When he inserts his manhood in the woman, he is already so agitated, he has a quick orgasm. Then he immediately feels shame and retreats, eyes averted, sometimes leaving quickly. Disappointment shrouds the encounter instead of joy.

Most men lack an understanding of how to approach a woman:

I regard creepiness as pushing boundaries and personal space too soon – eagerness and lack of social awareness makes this behavior repelling, instead of compelling.

Let’s take the old chicken or egg dilemma. Guess what? The egg came first, and women represent the egg. Men – you came out of an egg. Don’t peck the egg to death when you’re trying to get back in.

Instead of making big asks right off the bat, come at women with a “what can I do for you?” attitude, this what I personally liked in other men, they really care for what their partner likes on bed, so that they make them feel comfortable. After all, you have to energize her, not drain her. Once a woman feels comfortable and valued as a human being, then you can get freaky later on.

Being pushy, entitled, and dishonest will only drive women further away from you.

Here is what I wish to teach few Indian partners, a woman wants passion as much as a man, but she needs to be approached differently. Imagine the man is a torch, and the woman is a gold chalice filled with water. The man should not jab at the woman and knock her over, spilling the water. Instead, he should gently approach her with an open heart, caress the sides of the chalice with his flame, warming her slowly, causing the gold to glow, and heating the water within. In time, the water will be nice and hot and inviting for both of them to bask and enjoy.

In other words, both the man and woman need to learn how to conquer shame and replace the fear with love. They must learn how to give and give, and realize that bodies are temples of pleasure and to conduct themselves with pleasure and playfulness in mind.

Men should recognize that a woman’s body is a lush, full landscape to be explored with gentle fingers and tongue. A woman’s body is more than just her breasts and genitals. Women love maturity and appreciation. Lovemaking can be a form of worship. Consider the ritual of preparing for lovemaking – bathing and adorning yourself. Then there is the ritual itself of shared ecstasy. Do not forget the aftercare ritual – cuddling, communication, cleaning up and rest.

It is difficult to overcome decades of sex-negativity, but with patience and compassion, a positive shift can be made, and both men and women can greatly benefit from a mutually respectful approach to sex – it is a creative expression and celebration!

Please do not forget to leave your comments and reviews, if any of you would like to discuss anything related to swinger’s lifestyle or perspectives as woman sharing bed with multiple partners, I am available through email or sometime on Whatsapp Too.

With Love,



  1. Hey Amaaya, I totally agree with u as your experience is true n the rituals u mentioned r very essential both before and after lovemaking.

    Yes female body is not only limited to Breast n genitals….. But all the landscape is to be caressed.

    Your this post is very helpful indeed. Thanks dear



  2. Wow. I didn’t have a lot of expectations while I clicked on the link, but boy do you make sense! And in a very artful way. The article was a pleasure to read and very sincere in its drive. Thank you for sharing your experiences and helping us to become better.

    An Indian man married to a wonderful, passionate Indian woman.



  3. I came to this blog from another blog where you mentioned that people are angry with you for writing what you have written in this blog. I see no reason to be angry. The way we treat sex in India is known to everyone. But I guess when you compare a big population with another it automatically becomes a subject of statistics. In this case your sample size is too small and biased too. I believe you must have encountered mostly well educated Indian men. Many such men stay like a mama’s boy until they get married. They usually spend more time doing study rather than any physical activity. Anyway I think I am also falling in the trap of stereotyping people.

    In general what I am trying to say is you have not tried a wide range of Indian men (For example the farm workers or villagers or even the guys like gym instructors etc.). I think when you said in this blog is perfectly fine because it is your personal experience and anybody should understand the limitations of a person. But I still agree with your blog and feel that sexually India is not as open as other parts of the world are and it shows in the sexual performances



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